#weisheit

Marshall Rosenberg - The Cause of Anger (Audio)

How do you talk to yourself?

we'll find a way

once we have one of these enemy images in our mind (that the other person is wrong)

it's not easy to shift enemy images

equally convincing and confident - but also helpful and constructive

How do you talk to yourself when you're making mistakes

Observation without evaluation

the less they will care about our needs in the future.

if we manage to make someone change their behaviour because of shame fear or guilt

we're not likely to find many human beings who can maintain focus on our needs when we're expressing them through images of their wrongness

why would

where i focused my attention at this moment

that would greatly increase the possibility of getting my needs met.

which would, however, have worked against my getting my needs met

people tricking themselves into believing

all violence is the result of people tricking themselves

another way we could respond to behaviour we don't like is to

never put your but(t) in the face of an angry person

a conflict not resolved for 39 years