#resulting

the less they will care about our needs in the future.

if we manage to make someone change their behaviour because of shame fear or guilt

we're not likely to find many human beings who can maintain focus on our needs when we're expressing them through images of their wrongness

where i focused my attention at this moment

that would greatly increase the possibility of getting my needs met.

which would, however, have worked against my getting my needs met

people tricking themselves into believing

all violence is the result of people tricking themselves